Memoir
As far back as I can remember food was part of every celebration. My mother’s side of the family is Portuguese, and my father’s side is Swedish. Both my grandmothers were awesome cooks. When you went to their houses you were expected to eat, and when they came to your house they brought food. I learned how to cook from both of them. Their cooking shaped who I am today.
Going to Vavo’s house for Christmas was always one of my favorite times. Her door was always open to everyone. When we showed up we would just walk in, and call out her name. She would be at the stove finishing up the meal. Vavo would be wearing her button down smock over her clothes. The table was always set with her china set. I love that set, it is a white set with delicate pink flowers around the edge. Every Christmas and Thanksgiving she used that set. The meal was always perfect. A golden oven roasted turkey with all the fixings. The smell of the turkey filled her house. The only thing that was truly Portuguese about her turkey dinner was the meat stuffing inside the bird. He stuffing was mostly made with chourico, ground beef, and a few other things.
Still today I have wonderful memories of going to my grandparents for Thanksgiving. As you opened up the main door the smell of dinner and the sound of my Grandfather playing piano would hit you. Going up the stairs the aroma of dinner would get stronger, and the sound of the piano would get louder. Grandma would be at the top of the stairs standing in the doorway. As you told Grandma that everything smelled great, Grandpa would yell from the piano “Thanks I have been cooking all day!” Grandpa was a kidder. Grandma would already have the table set for dinner, and the pies were cooling on the stove top. As we sat around the table Grandpa would lead grace. There was always plenty of conversation while eating at their house. Most of the conversation was Grandpa joking about how he grew the Turkey in the backyard, or that he grew the green beans in the backyard. Grandpa kept us laughing during the whole meal.
Vavo took cooking seriously. When she taught me how to cook it was out of necessity. She felt the need to make sure I knew how to make all her most prized recipes. My earliest memory of cooking with her was when I was six years old. She had me pull a chair up to the oven, so I could see her making the soup. We cooked together for many years after that. Most of her recipes I still cook till this day. My husband and children love when I make her Portuguese soup.
Grams took a totally different approach to teaching me how to cook. She made cooking fun. We would talk about what we wanted to cook, and then she would write a shopping list for what we would need. Then we would walk to the grocery store. On the walk we talked about all kinds of different things from how school was going to what I wanted to be when I grew up. I didn’t realize it then, but now I see how at the grocery store she was teaching me how to shop. When we got back to her house we gathered all the things we needed to start baking. She showed me how to make breads and pies. A few years ago I invited Grams to my house and had a good old fashion baking session. She retaught me how to make some of her breads. I had a wonderful time that day, and so did she.
Vavo passed when I was only 18. Before she passed she instilled what she felt were the important family values. Among them was what you bring to a family who just lost a loved one, how you set a buffet table for a breakfast (the meal after a funeral), and most importantly how to feed your family. To Vavo food was love.
Grams and I still get together often, but now she lives in an assisted living home. She always feels bad because she doesn’t have food to offer me. I try to explain to her that I don’t visit her for the food; I visit her because I love her. I suppose you can say even my Grams things food is love.
Both these women were the most important women in my life. They taught me so much more than cooking, but cooking was the biggest party of it. Everything we did as a family centered around food. If it was your birthday they cooked your favorite meal, and dessert. Getting together for a holiday it was a big, huge meal. Even just visiting they made sure they had a meal for you to eat. As an adult I have carried on many of the same habits. When I have a gathering at my house I always make sure my guest are well fed. When my children have a birthday I make sure I cook their favorite food.